Looking for some ways to motivate yourself? Well then Mondays around here will be your favorite day!
Welcome to #motivationmonday !
I know the struggle with motivation really well, especially with anxiety and depression being something I fight daily. Anyone else struggle with finally getting into a groove only for something to come up and then you just stop?? It often isn’t a direct decision I make to stop working out, stop writing, stop meal planning, etc. It just seems to sneak up on me. One day I just realize like a lightbulb goes off that I haven’t done *insert whatever here* in x weeks. I will often beat myself up with feeling like a failure again. I am trying to teach myself discipline and become more intentional in life. A goal without a plan is just a wish.
I invite you to start to carve time out to grow your intentional mindset. What bad habit are you trying to change? What dream are you currently pursuing? Think about what steps you need to take to get to where you wanna be. What do you hope to achieve in the next five years? I can think of about hundred things I want to accomplish in the next five years. Let’s work together towards our goals, we totally got this!
Here are my top five tips to motivate yourself to start moving towards your hopes and dreams.
Tip number 1: Dig Deep. Look deep inside, yes wayy down into that soul of yours and write down your top 100 dreams. I am completely serious. Its a beast, but I want you to write them all down! It helps so much to gain clarity in your direction and calling. This is an exercise that my dream coach gave me two years ago, and yes I totally had a dream coach. My list is something I walked away from last year when life seemed to be crashing around me but you better believe I am pulling that sucker back out and making a plan. How will you know how to get there, if you don’t know where you are going?
Tip number 2: Focus on small wins. Anyone else get really discouraged if you lose any game, like…at all? I have learned how to not be such a poor loser over the years, slowly but surely. I would be lying if I didn’t say my son gets his poor sportsmanship from me. I am super competitive, and over the years I have been extra intentional to celebrate other people’s wins even if that initial reaction doesn’t come naturally. It all stems from my level of self confidence, I struggle deeply with feeling good enough and if I win then no one can say I wasn’t good enough. I mean lets be real, winning is also way more fun. If you really struggle with self confidence like I do, I recommend picking a small attainable dream on your list that you can accomplish quickly and fairly easily. I then want you to celebrate that win like you just won the freakin’ Super Bowl. Its amazing how intentionally celebrating the small wins can build your confidence to pursue that big scary dream.
Tip number 3: Crank up the music. One of my favorite ways to drag myself out of the dreary funk of being unmotivated is to crank up some of my favorite songs. I have a specific playlist I created just for these moments. It is impossible to not get my butt up and moving if my favs are playing!
Tip number 4: Create an inspiration board. This is something I haven’t done until today, I have always said I would but never made time to do it. I remember years ago when I was working out every day I put a picture of a swim suit model up on my phone, and when it got hard I would look at that photo and keep going. Now I am not saying to torture yourself in that way, because lets be real I will never be a swimsuit model. But I knew I wanted to lose weight and get more toned, and that was a good visual reminder that I needed to stay motivated when it got hard. Because it will get hard, you will stumble, but you just gotta get back up and keep going. This time instead of pictures, I chose to use visual words as my mental game tends to be where I lose the most. I will drown my anxiety out with positive affirmations that I will look at daily. *Hint* Next week will be all about this very topic, and I may even have created a free download for y’all. Don’t forget to subscribe so you don’t miss out!
Tip number 5: Don’t try to eat the elephant in one bite. I am literally the worst at this. Yes most literally. I have about one million ideas in my head and I struggle with feeling like I need to do everything all at once. I might have 20 things on my to-do list, and if I can’t get them done all in an impossible timeline I will often spiral into a paralyzing panic attack. Who can relate? I often stop doing anything to progress through my list as I am frozen with the feeling of failure before I even get started because I can’t get it done all at once. Its ridiculous and I am working hard to STOP doing this to myself. If you struggle with that paralyzed feeling, you are not alone. We just have to remember to take one bite at a time. Make a list and check it off.
Cheat tip: I like to add a few ridiculously simple tasks just so I can feel the satisfaction of checking something off. Not too many so it doesn’t make it feel more overwhelming, but rather motivating to see progress. It feels good to be able to see the progress, and again its a visual reminder that we are moving forward even though sometimes it doesn’t feel like that.
Bonus tip: Do not fall into comparison. When I was creating this blog I stalled for a few days with paralyzing anxiety because there is no way I could create a site that compares to the other blogs I was seeing. Which is completely ridiculously because they aren’t new to this and have been working on their content and sites for years. I remember crying and telling myself that I suck and there is no way I would ever be successful. Y’all that’s a lie straight from the pits of hell. Don’t look at someone’s journey and compare it to your own. We all have our own stories, struggles, and its easy to get sucked into that social media highlight reel and make ourselves feel completely unworthy of success. We have a purpose in this world, do not let the fear of not being as good as someone else who has way more experience stop you from living what you are supposed to be living and doing the things you are supposed to be doing.
I hope these 5 tips helped motivate you just a little bit and that you have a kick ass week! I will be back Friday with #flatlayfriday with some of my Summer Must Haves! xoxo, A